Characteristics of Domestic Abuser

For a lot of women dealing with abusive men is something they have to deal with throughout their lives. And its not just physical abuse but also the emotional abuse that these women can suffer. When looking at which men could potentially be abusive you tend to find alcoholics and men who are insecure are high on the list of abusive men.

These men will impose themselves over women, continually trying to show how superior they are. There is a misconception that women who suffer from abusive men come from rural or undeveloped areas. This misconception is shown in statistics which provide evidence that two thirds of married women or the subject of domestic abuse in their life.

he warning signs and symptoms below are to help you recognize and acknowledge the characteristics of abusive men. Identifying a batterer is the first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love. If you recognize the characteristics in your spouse, partner, friend or co-worker, don’t hesitate to reach out. There is help available.

  1. Overly or obsessively jealous.
  2. Verbally Abusive.
  3. Verbally, physically, or emotionally cruel to animals or children.
  4. Doesn’t take responsibility, blames others for problems.
  5. Blames others for actions.
  6. Claims his problems are the cause of the abuse.
  7. Blames alcohol or drugs for anger.
  8. Blames others for bad temper or feelings.
  9. Has low self-esteem.
  10. Has unrealistic expectations or demands.
  11. Isolates partner from family, friends, work, and church.
  12. Has controlling behaviors.
  13. Hypersensitive to problems.
  14. Dual personalities: “Jekyll and Hyde personalities.”
  15. Continually belittles partner.
  16. Uncontrolled behavior: reacts in rage unexpectedly.
  17. Has personality disorder.
  18. Manipulative.
  19. Has addictive behaviors: alcohol, gambling, drugs, sex, porn, overeating.
  20. Minimizes or denies abuse.
  21. Rationalizes violence and abuse.
  22. Has a criminal record.

Over time you are conditioned to believe that your preferences, your limits and your boundaries are the trigger for your inner anxiety. Some people do what they think is essential to alleviate that anxiety and before you know it, choices are being made for the wrong reasons.

We learn to live in the abusive relationship by keeping the battles at bay… and before you know it you lose sense of who and what you are. Your boundaries are as vague to yourself as they are to your abusive partner.

A cornerstone in breaking the cycle of domestic abuse is arresting this interaction pattern wherein your “no” is your outer war and your “yes” is your inner war. If you resonate with this dysfunctional dynamic characteristic of abusive relationships, seek to find effective domestic abuse treatment.